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Post by mypprincess on Mar 31, 2011 18:05:15 GMT -5
My work days are from Sunday to Thursday 9am -5:30pm. My salary is not enough to cover all expenses (My husband is a stay-at-home dad.) I would love to work on Fridays, but I need the early shift that is from 6am - 2:30pm. My boss keeps on saying that all the early shifts are taken by full timers and she will give me the time when it is available. That has been going on for several months and I only got 1 Fri. The truth is that one of the per-diem nurses have been coming the last 2 months EVERY FRIDAY for an extra early shift because of high census. I keep on telling her every week that I'm available and she still tells me she doesn't need one at the moment. Today when I checked tomorrows schedule I became fuming mad  . Its always the same nurse that takes that shift. And I'm the full timer!!! The true reason she gets the job is not because she does a better job than me. My boss herself asked me for one of my care plans to copy from. That nurse tattles everything she knows (and thinks she knows) to the boss and she therefore, wants her there. I need advice please! |
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Post by achot on Apr 1, 2011 1:13:15 GMT -5
Whoa, tattlers are the worst and there is nothing you can do about it. You can put in writing a memo (keep a copy yourself) asking for the shift but if it wasnt a consideration or condition when you were hired they dont have to respect it. You can go over her head but that will clearly backfire on you. Dont bother getting fuming mad because it wont help you and if your boss finds out, she can use it against you. It is her right to "not need you". I am sorry if I am not as sympathetic as you need and I apologize for my callous approach but I am giving you the flip side of the coin and the sooner you deal with the reality the sooner you can deal with this problem.
You can tell her that you need the extra money and appeal to her human side but your competition may have already done this.
I think your biggest problem is not this nurse but your need to cover expenses. You can try to get a second job for friday mornings only (through an agency or whatever) to augment your salary, or you can ask your husband to get a part time job. There are creative ways to try to close a gap in your budget, I am no expert in this but perhaps you have a good friend who can give you tips on this.
Good Luck, I know this problem is churning in you and hope it gets resolved in a positive manner.
Shabbat Shalom
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Post by mypprincess on Apr 1, 2011 8:49:48 GMT -5
achot, thanks for taking your time to give your advice.
The problem is more than that. This boss is trying to get me to tattletale too and I wouldn't do it. So she put me into a situation that I didn't even realize that I gave someone away. To make matters worse this "someone" is the girl that I got along with the best and was always there to help me. As soon as I realized what happened I went over to her and told her exactly what happened. Now she doesn't trust me and I can't blame her for that because even if she understands that its not my fault, she may think it can happen again.
I'm fuming mad at my boss for pitting us against each other.
Also, the unspoken rule is that full-timers have first say. Everyone knows that. My boss knows so too. If I complain to the higher ups, I'll be right, but will have to work in a living hell.
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Post by achot on Apr 1, 2011 9:49:01 GMT -5
achot, thanks for taking your time to give your advice. The problem is more than that. This boss is trying to get me to tattletale too and I wouldn't do it. So she put me into a situation that I didn't even realize that I gave someone away. To make matters worse this "someone" is the girl that I got along with the best and was always there to help me. As soon as I realized what happened I went over to her and told her exactly what happened. Now she doesn't trust me and I can't blame her for that because even if she understands that its not my fault, she may think it can happen again. I'm fuming mad at my boss for pitting us against each other. Also, the unspoken rule is that full-timers have first say. Everyone knows that. My boss knows so too. If I complain to the higher ups, I'll be right, but will have to work in a living hell. Ok so now you are adding more details, So you have a nasty boss who doesnt play fair etc. In truth we have all fallen in that pit (maybe I should say- I have fallen in that pit and hoped that I wasnt alone), and hopefully in time your friend will forgive you and understand that you were naive. Unfortunately an unspoken rule is not something you can take to the bank or even a court of law. It is only as enforceable as those who are enforcing it. Bottom line is this is your bosses show. You can either take it or leave it. Please try to remember why you are working- it is for your family and the building of a Bayit Neeman BYisroel so you can grow closer to Hashem. It is also for your patients benefit. These scenarios and unpleasantness are possibly the Yetzer Hora trying to motivate us to do something that isnt good for us. If the problem is so unbearable please brush up your resume and start looking for another job. If you dont want to change jobs, remember to work under your bosses rules. You dont have to "squeal" (unless it is for your patients best interest). If you want, lay low and keep under the radar and your friend and boss will forgive you. I know it isnt easy. |
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Post by bobbie613 on Apr 1, 2011 13:02:51 GMT -5
Dear Princess,
In what state are you working?
Bobbie
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Post by Rivka P on Apr 3, 2011 20:25:16 GMT -5
Achot suggested that you get another job just for Friday mornings. Agency positions are perfect for that kind of thing, because you can work as often as you want, getting paid much more per hour than a full time job because you don't need benefits from them.
I'm sorry to hear about your issues with your boss, but I don't really have any good suggestions on how to deal with that either. SORRY.
b'hatzlacha.
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. Its always the same nurse that takes that shift. And I'm the full timer!!! 
