I would not send that. As it reads, it serves no good purpose. And mentioning money sounds like you're trying to tease out another offer. Don't drag the owner into the drama if he hasn't asked you to defend your actions. You mention money twice, and language barriers twice. It just sounds like you're trying to excuse yourself from something. It won't leave a good final impression. And, you have no way of ensuring it won't be shown to your (ex-) manager.
Usually one doesn't write a goodbye letter to the owner. If you really want to, write 2 or 3 lines. 'Thank you for the excellent opportunity afforded me in the past year. I am sorry that there weren't shifts available without conflicting with my other employment. I am grateful for having gotten my start at your facility, and wish you much continued success for your self and your patients.'
Remember, that ANYTHING you put into writing may be somehow used against you later. Personally, I think better to just drop the whole thing. Move on quietly without any fuss. And good luck with the new job.
Rabbi Asher Bush is the rav of Congregation Ahavas Yisrael in Wesley Hills, NY and is a longtime member of the faculty at Frisch Yeshiva High School. He is the author of T’shuvos Sho’el B’Shlomo and serves as the Chairman of the Va’ad Halacha of the Rabbinical Council of America.
On one hand, I hate to give a group ruling about something that is so subjective/personal in terms of health and how a person is feeling. On the other, the temperature is expected to be very high in New York City and many people think that Tisha B’Av is the same as Yom Kippur, which it is not. The standard for permitting eating on Yom Kippur is possible danger; the standard for permitting eating on Tisha B’Av is Tzaar Gadol (great distress), that may be part of other sicknesses (e.g. migraine, flu, etc.) or in some cases caused by the fasting itself.
It should be noted, that as much as going to Shul and reciting Kinos is part of making Tisha B’Av a meaningful day, if health requires staying home, then one should do so. Related to this, if resting is necessary to enable a person to fast then they should do so and refrain from other activities, including the recitation of Kinos.
Clearly, activities should be limited and staying in the Shul or home with air-conditioning is appropriate. However, if a person feels that they may faint due to the heat and merely going into a properly air-conditioned location does not help, they should drink. Particular caution should be paid by older individuals. At the same time, Rav Avigdor Nebenzhal (Yerushalayim B’Moadeha, Tshuva #14) points out that working is not a reason to permit eating, even if the work causes difficulty in fasting.
It should be mentioned that a nursing mother who will not have enough milk for her child should have small amounts of beverages to prevent this; this is true whether the shortage of milk will be on Tisha B’Av or the next day (Rav Nebenzhal, ibid., #19). Related to this matter, Rav Nebenzahl also points out that a mother caring for children should not be in a position that she needs to eat due to her responsibilities. Rather, she should be assisted in the child care.
Most importantly, if there are any questions one should never hesitate to ask one’s Rav; if a person is exempt from fasting due for reasons of health it is generally neither a Mitzvah nor meritorious for them to fast.
Bumping this up again this year. I didn't have the heart to write something new. 23,085 soldiers and security personnel to date. Nearly 5,000 widows and over 2,000 orphans. May Hashem bless the State of Israel, and Am Yisrael wherever they be; and may we know no new mourning for soldiers or victims of terror in the coming years.
Achot, shavua tov. As for your first observation, we and our friends didn't use the privately paid service of the OB because we didn't trust the on-call staff. We did it because after so many months of dealing with a physician and creating a relationship, my wife (and some of her friends) just felt more comforted and supported if the man delivering the baby was the same familiar face who had provided some of the prenatal care. Her mother offered to pay for this luxury to make her daughter more comfortable, so why not.
I agree with you that as far as we could tell, the overall quality of staff and care was good and we would have been fine had we used the on-call in-house staff.
This must be a new thing. I know that when my daughters were born in the 80s, we privately paid our OB doc to be available so that we wouldn't have to use whoever was in-house at the hospital. It was a common, though luxury, practice. I *thought* that it was possible with midwives, too.