Post by mypprincess on Jan 17, 2010 20:42:17 GMT -5
This past Holiday season I had a major run-in with my supervisor.
We get paid double for holidays. We have 2 full time RNs, 2 full time LPNs, and lots of per-diems. The Dec. 25 and Jan. 1 both fell on Fridays the days I don't usually work. I asked her if she needs me and she said yes. So I cancelled the other places (that I'm per-diem) that asked me if I can work those days. About a week before Dec. 25 my supervisor told me she doesn't need me because she is overstaffed. I didn't say a word, after all, this is not my day. Dec. 30, when I checked the schedule for Jan. 1, I saw that my name is not on the list. Shocked I called her and she said that she told me she was overstaffed. I told her I didn't know and I thought I was going to work. She told me she was busy and I should be quick. So I hung up. Still shocked I announced to the 5 coworkers what happened. I said that I understand she forgot to tell me because she is so stressed from all the work she has. But I complained that I had other jobs lined up that I called to cancel when she told me I'll work that day. 2 other nurses told me they don't care to work that day, and I can go instead. I told them never mind, I don't want to make a big deal, I was just caught by surprise. The next day in the morning my supervisor calls and tells me in an upset voice that this is not how things work in this place, to talk behind her back.
She said, "I am very close with my staff." IE- they tell me everything...
"Instead of complaining to everyone and going yada yada yada, you should first talk to me and we can work things out."
I told her, "I called you first." But she countered, "No, you complained first."
She said she switched the schedule so I can come to work. Honestly, at this point I didn't care anymore, and told her that its OK, and I don't want to make a big deal.
She countered, "You ALREADY made a big deal."
At that point I decided that its best to apologize and arguing will only make matters worse. I Told her, "I'm sorry."
She replied, "Thank you", and promptly hung up the phone.
She never asked me for my side of the story. I ended up coming to work on New Years day, but I'm afraid that my relationship with my supervisor is badly damaged.
When I have important topics that I must discuss with her about patients, she often tells me she can't talk now, and then when I bring it up she tells me, "You should have told me that."
When I travel to the main office to bring supplies to save her time from doing it herself, she doesn't even thank me anymore. She became nasty, but is friendly and close to the others. I'm afraid to talk, lest I say something wrong. I'm afraid she'll report me for the slightest error.
Last week I started having panic attacks at work that lasted for hours. They often continued when I was home. One night It kept me awake. My chest felt restricted. At first I didn't associate the 2, but I then realized that Sunday when she doesn't come in, when she is late or leaves early I'm much more relaxed. I need to do something before I get too sick to work.
Leaving is not an option. I can loose my house if I do.
I desperately need advice before I loose it.
We get paid double for holidays. We have 2 full time RNs, 2 full time LPNs, and lots of per-diems. The Dec. 25 and Jan. 1 both fell on Fridays the days I don't usually work. I asked her if she needs me and she said yes. So I cancelled the other places (that I'm per-diem) that asked me if I can work those days. About a week before Dec. 25 my supervisor told me she doesn't need me because she is overstaffed. I didn't say a word, after all, this is not my day. Dec. 30, when I checked the schedule for Jan. 1, I saw that my name is not on the list. Shocked I called her and she said that she told me she was overstaffed. I told her I didn't know and I thought I was going to work. She told me she was busy and I should be quick. So I hung up. Still shocked I announced to the 5 coworkers what happened. I said that I understand she forgot to tell me because she is so stressed from all the work she has. But I complained that I had other jobs lined up that I called to cancel when she told me I'll work that day. 2 other nurses told me they don't care to work that day, and I can go instead. I told them never mind, I don't want to make a big deal, I was just caught by surprise. The next day in the morning my supervisor calls and tells me in an upset voice that this is not how things work in this place, to talk behind her back.
She said, "I am very close with my staff." IE- they tell me everything...
"Instead of complaining to everyone and going yada yada yada, you should first talk to me and we can work things out."
I told her, "I called you first." But she countered, "No, you complained first."
She said she switched the schedule so I can come to work. Honestly, at this point I didn't care anymore, and told her that its OK, and I don't want to make a big deal.
She countered, "You ALREADY made a big deal."
At that point I decided that its best to apologize and arguing will only make matters worse. I Told her, "I'm sorry."
She replied, "Thank you", and promptly hung up the phone.
She never asked me for my side of the story. I ended up coming to work on New Years day, but I'm afraid that my relationship with my supervisor is badly damaged.
When I have important topics that I must discuss with her about patients, she often tells me she can't talk now, and then when I bring it up she tells me, "You should have told me that."
When I travel to the main office to bring supplies to save her time from doing it herself, she doesn't even thank me anymore. She became nasty, but is friendly and close to the others. I'm afraid to talk, lest I say something wrong. I'm afraid she'll report me for the slightest error.
Last week I started having panic attacks at work that lasted for hours. They often continued when I was home. One night It kept me awake. My chest felt restricted. At first I didn't associate the 2, but I then realized that Sunday when she doesn't come in, when she is late or leaves early I'm much more relaxed. I need to do something before I get too sick to work.
Leaving is not an option. I can loose my house if I do.
I desperately need advice before I loose it.
