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Post by mby on Sept 4, 2008 16:18:55 GMT -5
I'm starting to work evening shifts soon 5 nights/week, i was wondering, how do u guys manage the whole mikva thing? most of them close around 10 and i wont end my shift til 11, any tips?
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Post by Rivka P on Sept 4, 2008 16:30:14 GMT -5
For a few months in a row, my mikvah night fell out on Friday night. I thought this was awful, because preparation can be complicated, but I really see now it was quite good because I had off from work anyway!
Once I was scheduled to work 7pm-7am on my mikvah night and I called a Rabbi with a shailah, may I go a little early or the next night? Pretty much, I ended up explaining mikvah as best I could to my born-again X-ian clinical coordinator and was able to switch to 11p-7a that night.
Mikvah happens to be harder than yontif to get off for, because don't know exactly what night it will be in advance. I suggest making good friends at work and picking up shifts for them, so they'll be happy to pick up shifts for you!
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Post by mby on Sept 4, 2008 17:05:18 GMT -5
i just recently started my job, and they're being real supportive of Shabbat/Chag. i don't want to them to perceive me as taking advantage, esp. since I'm new. Can preparations be done earlier (prior to shift) and then going to the mikva later? i think i heard that its costs more money to go after hours. but that it's do-able....
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Post by Rivka P on Sept 5, 2008 9:44:18 GMT -5
I would say, ask a Rabbi. I know it isn't the most comfortable thing to ask, but hey, it's important. You want to go after you get home from your shift at like midnight? I don't know which mikvah lady would be willing to do that for you. Going the next night is totally not ideal.  Sigh, I hate such dilemmas. I feel for you! Good luck! |
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Post by chavamom on Nov 10, 2008 1:14:33 GMT -5
I don't posken, but I can tell you that our rav allows to go during the day before your night shift if you won't be going home until after nightfall. You are toveling early but halachically it's allowed (at least according to our rav). Luckily I live in a city where the mikvah ladies are accommodating and someone would meet me at the mikvah early. I don't work nights any more, but when I did I had to avail myself of this heter a few times. Ask a rav if this might work for you.
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Post by Rivka P on Nov 10, 2008 16:51:35 GMT -5
A nurse friend told me that when she worked evenings, she would go to mikvah the night that she was supposed to at about 5 am or so, because it's still dark outside and that was more convenient for the mikvah lady than taking her around midnight.
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Post by achot on Jan 11, 2009 8:13:20 GMT -5
Here in Jerusalem it isn't a problem, we just say we cant work that shift or ask the night nurse to take over early or ask another nurse to cover.
Usually you know in advance , can you ask another nurse to cover you and arrange with the closest mikveh a time so you wont have to wait to minimize the time you are gone?
The best thing to do is take the shift off or ask a Shailas Rav (nothing to be ashamed of)
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Post by mypprincess on Jan 25, 2009 21:15:43 GMT -5
My husband works mostly nights and he can't ask for a change of shift because its his own business. Whenever he has an opportunity for a job, he has to go because this is a seasonal business and sometimes he doesn't have work for days at a time. Sometimes he is home more than a week or 2.
In the beginning he did not take a job during mikvah night. But as the kids got older and the bills kept on piling up we started consistently pushing off the mikvah night for when we are both home.
With the bad job market, I'm employed only Sundays and per diem. From when I earned my license I am still unable to find a full time position. So when I get a call to come to work overnight or evening, I RUN. I never turn down a job regardless of mikvah night or not.
The only time I don't go to work is if I have a very close family simchah. After all, people get married (hopefully)and have Bar Mitzvah only once...
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Post by Rivka P on Jan 25, 2009 22:44:21 GMT -5
I am surprised to hear that the only job you were able to find was weekend/per diem. I feel like there are so many more full time positions out there and the fact that I am specifically looking for part time work is limiting me.
Did you ask a rav about pushing off mikvah night for when you can both be home? There might be special stipulations for doing so and a specific way to go about it.
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Post by Rivka P on Jan 25, 2009 22:47:21 GMT -5
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Post by mypprincess on Jan 26, 2009 9:20:01 GMT -5
Rivkah, it depends where you live. States like Florida, Connecticut plus rural areas have a nursing shortage, each for their own reasons. Florida has a very large senior population and small rural areas don't have nursing schools for many square miles around.
But for the rest of us that don't live in those areas its a tough job market out there.
Check out the thread "nursing students" where I posted more information about that.
And thanks for your link. Very interesting. I did learn a lot.
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Post by Rivka P on Mar 21, 2010 23:49:25 GMT -5
Our mikveh ladies will take you "after hours" for an extra fee. (like MBY said)
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Sigh, I hate such dilemmas. I feel for you! Good luck!