Post by malkieh on Mar 28, 2011 17:49:55 GMT -5
I have 2 exams this week and a final next week... I am stressed and overwhelmed, because it's a lot of studying etc etc..
Sadly, the man renting our guest house's mom passed away on shabbos morning (BDE), she was elderly. My husband, being the kind heart that he is, offered for his son to stay with us so that he has more space for the minayan to be in the guest house.. Is having something else at our home I saw the living room set up, w/out telling me. Knows I have to pick patients for tomorrow's clinical.
Calls me and states, "I am at the levaya and I need you to pick up the kids." I did not mean to get upset with him, but I was frustrated because I am tired and need to study and need to pick patients. I kind of vented a bit that I am tired, and he screamed some not very nice words at me and said that if I have time to take my daughter to gymnastics, a funeral is more important that gymnastics. When I asked him what that had to do with anything, her gymnastics is around the corner from where I pick patients, so she does that while I am picking patients. He started yelling and cursing at me again, it's not something he typically does. Just when he thinks I am being "silly or stressing over nothing."
This is our guest house guy, not really our friend, and while I appreciate that my husband is a good man. It's making me reflect on pesach, and how I warned him I would be stressed with school and begged him not to invite guests. he still invited guests, or as he calls it "I did not invite them they called to ask if they could come." I begged him to please uninvite them, to which he responded no. Then told me that I am being silly and everything will be fine.. I feel like my needs are always on the back burner, while most of the time he's an incredible husband and I absolutely adore him.
when it comes to do things for other people and family obligations, other people always come first.
thanks for listening to my vent
Sadly, the man renting our guest house's mom passed away on shabbos morning (BDE), she was elderly. My husband, being the kind heart that he is, offered for his son to stay with us so that he has more space for the minayan to be in the guest house.. Is having something else at our home I saw the living room set up, w/out telling me. Knows I have to pick patients for tomorrow's clinical.
Calls me and states, "I am at the levaya and I need you to pick up the kids." I did not mean to get upset with him, but I was frustrated because I am tired and need to study and need to pick patients. I kind of vented a bit that I am tired, and he screamed some not very nice words at me and said that if I have time to take my daughter to gymnastics, a funeral is more important that gymnastics. When I asked him what that had to do with anything, her gymnastics is around the corner from where I pick patients, so she does that while I am picking patients. He started yelling and cursing at me again, it's not something he typically does. Just when he thinks I am being "silly or stressing over nothing."
This is our guest house guy, not really our friend, and while I appreciate that my husband is a good man. It's making me reflect on pesach, and how I warned him I would be stressed with school and begged him not to invite guests. he still invited guests, or as he calls it "I did not invite them they called to ask if they could come." I begged him to please uninvite them, to which he responded no. Then told me that I am being silly and everything will be fine.. I feel like my needs are always on the back burner, while most of the time he's an incredible husband and I absolutely adore him.
when it comes to do things for other people and family obligations, other people always come first.
thanks for listening to my vent