chanab
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Post by chanab on Jan 18, 2009 2:15:50 GMT -5
Rivka - I once encountered a Jewish pt in one of the local Catholic hospitals who had pulled the cross off the wall and stuck it in a drawer for the duration of her stay!
What do y'all say/do when work has a carry-in day or people ask you about kashruth? I was bringing food in on carry-in days but I think I've found a cultural divide in that no one seems to like the food I bring (except latkes - they loved the latkes!). I know I don't actually eat the food that's brought, but I don't want to create animosity by not participating. I recently decided to just contribute to the monetary collection for those days, but I don't know if it would be an issue if the money is used to purchase non-kosher food? Any thoughts?
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Post by achot on Jan 18, 2009 6:38:46 GMT -5
Agree that handshaking was better than hug!!!
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Post by mypprincess on Jan 18, 2009 15:36:48 GMT -5
I had a different situation in nursing school. Before graduation we had some sort of celebration party, and the staff were caring enough to order "kosher" food for me. The meat had a hashgachah that I cannot trust, but I couldn't insult them especially after all the caring and effort. I came up with the solution to stuff it into my pocket book when no one was looking (I hope).
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Post by Rivka P on Jan 19, 2009 0:25:10 GMT -5
princess, that is hilarious!
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Post by achot on Jan 20, 2009 1:56:55 GMT -5
That brings me back to a dilemma we had back in nursing school- can men and women just be friends? Will it lead to being over on the halachot?
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Post by achot on Jan 20, 2009 2:00:31 GMT -5
Mypprincesses story about the 'kosher food in the pocket' reminds me of when I left a facility and they bought be a cake from a kosher bakery but cut it with a treif knife (serrated) from the nonkosher kitchen!!!!!
I cut my own piece with a tongue blade, but later found out that they distributed left over pieces to the jewish doctors in the building that were cut with the knife, I should have explained...
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Post by mypprincess on Jan 20, 2009 9:16:42 GMT -5
achot, that's why I would never eat cake that is sliced and not prepackaged from the kosher bakery.
During our orientation (before I started nursing school) The Chabad rabbi from our school ordered kosher takeout that was served separately.
There was one problem, though. The Rabbi and his wife forgot (or didn't realize it) to put up a sign at the entrance of the kosher tent, "NO OUTSIDE FOOD ALLOWED."
What happened was, that for some odd reason the kosher food appeared more appetizing and throngs of students went to the kosher tent to get some food while bringing their non kosher food with them. I have seen some students using dishes that touched their treif food to take the kosher food. Fortunately for me (and my family) we came early enough before it was touched by non kosher utensils.
(another lesson learned)
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Post by mypprincess on Jan 20, 2009 9:40:50 GMT -5
One erev Pesach while still in nursing school I tried to find a student that would be kind enough to record the classes that would take place during yom tov.
One girl was gracious enough to offer to record the classes for me the first and second days of Yom Tov.
The problems was that the digital recorder only had a capacity of 3 1/2 hours (enough for one class). So she agreed to meet with me during chol hamoed at a predetermined location, hand me the recorder, and then meet again(!) so I can give it back to her.
After Yom Tov a fellow Jewish orthodox classmate asked me what I did because she is missing 2 extremely important classes. I proudly told her how I managed to get the classes taped by this very special classmate.
She gave me that look and said, "Linda? she is Jewish!"
I almost fell on my face.
How in the world would I know?
NOW i know to ask.
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Post by Rivka P on Jan 20, 2009 10:12:39 GMT -5
That brings me back to a dilemma we had back in nursing school- can men and women just be friends? Will it lead to being over on the halachot? It's been a question for me way before nursing school. Obviously no one knows both sides of the story, (because they aren't male and female at the same time) but it seems that even if a relationship is platonic for one side, it's highly unlikely it is for the other side. That being said, I feel that just because a teenage boy or any guy for that matter cannot be trusted not to think about a woman in a sexual way does not mean that all women should avoid having to do with any men. (obviously besides her spouse and father etc) There's a difference in my mind between thoughts and actions and I know that may not be the halacha, but I commend a guy who may inevitably have a fleeting sexual thought but for whatever reason, social or halachic, would never act on it. If you ask Gila Manolson, I think she'd have a different approach. |
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Post by achot on Jan 21, 2009 2:01:37 GMT -5
Gila Manolson's books are great
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Post by medic09 on Jan 21, 2009 10:48:56 GMT -5
I'm not familiar with her, but I'm always open to something suitable to use for education programs or to put in front of someone at the beit midrash...
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Post by Rivka P on Jan 21, 2009 19:58:06 GMT -5
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Post by achot on Jan 22, 2009 0:01:00 GMT -5
I use them more for teaching my teenagers, I dont know how well they'd be received in the Beis Medrash- not that they are inappropriate but there are better Beit Medrash books
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Post by medic09 on Jan 22, 2009 12:04:07 GMT -5
Achot, you have to understand that in a beit midrash in Santa Fe there are occasionally one, two, or three people who know how to open some sort of sefer and the rest are beginners coming to learn their first bits of traditional Torah. So maybe these will be suitable for adults who've never considered a more traditional notion of personal dignity and socializing.
I don't know much of what's out there in English, but my favorite over the years has been Rabbi Manis Friedmans' Doesn't Anybody Blush Anymore?
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Post by mypprincess on Jan 22, 2009 22:59:46 GMT -5
What about Rabbi Shmuli Boteach's books? He was recently on the Today Show promoting a new book. I can't remember the name, but it talks on how to remedy the problem many couples that have been together for a while face. One of them is a loss of intimacy.
Anyone here has an opinion on him? I was surprised to see how Charaidi he appears with a big yarmulka and a beard.
Oh, he DID shake hands with the 2 women he spoke to after the show!
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